We owe you an apology. We needed a break from this relationship but instead of communicating that to you we just sort of ghosted. And for that we truly are sorry. I know this sounds cliche, but it’s not you, it’s us. And let’s be real, it’s capitalism.

I’ve always wanted to work with and learn from Amina. But after she held a keynote talk at the Sex Down South conference while lying in bed on stage, I knew I had to prioritize the opportunity the next time it came around. And it did…

As much as I wanted to make this email about being on the receiving end of passive and passive aggressive behaviors, I knew I had to be honest. So, let me start with the shit I be on…

During one of my online sessions, my therapist hit a nerve. She said something I wasn’t yet ready to hear or heal and it pissed me off.

When you’re distracted during sex, it can keep you from reaching the height of pleasure you desire.

I was raised to be an independent Black woman. Early on I learned two things. First, depending on others often left you disappointed. Second, being called needy was not a compliment.

Consider yourself one of your sex partners and take a moment to notice what comes up for you just thinking or saying it aloud.

This process has made me aware of how often I talk myself out of a desire before I even give myself the chance to explore the possibility.