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reclaiming what it means to be a sexual Black woman.
Q: Personally I find it hard to think about me being sexual and a black woman because there are sooo many bad stereotypes that I don’t know how to get past, like in porn it’s much easier for me to watch porn with white people than black people because I think of what the world thinks of us. It’s hard because we are all seen as ghetto as black people so when I hear other black people talk like that I get turned off sometimes. I just don’t want it to be a black thing if that makes sense at all.
I don’t desire sex
Q: I’m a Black man in my 20’s who doesn’t really have a sex drive. Even though I loved the people I dated, I never wanted to have sex and feel like something is wrong with me…
4 practices for healing genital shame
Q: I feel a bit ashamed of how my genitalia looks so how can I work through this shame?
how to be present during sex after experiencing sexual trauma
Q: I experienced sexual trauma as a kid and notice that when I masturbate or have sex, in order to enjoy I have to disassociate from reality and go into a dream/fantasy world…
experiencing pleasure after a herpes diagnosis
Q: Hello, I've been finding it hard to connect with being sexually liberated due to the fact that I have HSV2…
is porn bad? overcoming shame and permitting pleasure
Q: Suggestions for having a healthier relationship with porn; I enjoy it during watching but feel guilty / off afterward.
how do i unpack sexual shame?
Q: Do you have any tips for how can I begin to explore sex and relationships after years of religious sexual shame?
reclaiming what it means to be a sexual Black woman
Q: Personally I find it hard to think about me being sexual and a black woman because there are sooo many bad stereotypes that I don’t know how to get past…
how we are socialized to be sexually assaulted & assaulters
Q: I wanted to reach out because I've been struggling to draw the line between consent and non-consent…
searching for the sexual goddess within
Q: I’m having trouble with feeling sexy. I'm not gonna lie sex kind of both exhilarates me and scares me…
Beyonce, Rihanna, Nicki - sexually liberated or sexually lost?
Q: My mom and aunt are always talking about Beyoncé, Rihanna, Nicki Minaj, and many black women who are openly sexual or express sexuality as a step back for all black women…
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