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reclaiming what it means to be a sexual Black woman.
Q: Personally I find it hard to think about me being sexual and a black woman because there are sooo many bad stereotypes that I don’t know how to get past, like in porn it’s much easier for me to watch porn with white people than black people because I think of what the world thinks of us. It’s hard because we are all seen as ghetto as black people so when I hear other black people talk like that I get turned off sometimes. I just don’t want it to be a black thing if that makes sense at all.
what you should know about fingering
Q: It seems like I often experience vaginal irritation and sometimes bacterial vaginosis when fingering occurs during sex. Can fingering cause BV and what is the likelihood of STD transmission?
what you need to know about lube
Q: So often I feel like I need to use lube but I feel embarrassed. I feel like I’m too young to have to use lube but I’m also working on challenging that because I’ve seen a lot of posts mention how beneficial it is…
does anal sex feel good?
Q: Hi! I've never tried anal sex. I just want to know if the anus is an erogenous zone for women?
quick on the draw: dealing with pre-ejaculation
Q: For the past year on and off, I have been quick on the draw intimately with my wife and was wondering what can I do to change that?
don't kiss me after you give me head!
Q: Is there a polite way to tell a partner during sex that you don’t want to be kissed immediately after they finish giving you oral?
vaginismus & ways to deal with painful sex
Q: It seems that I again hold racial trauma in my vulva which causes my vagina to be tense and cause painful penetration…
orgasms, cumming, squirting - oh my!
Q: I was just wondering if you guys have any tips on achieving a female orgasm and 'cumming'…
i'm a virgin who wants to explore my sexuality
Q: I'm a virgin and somedays I feel embarrassed about it. I get discouraged because I feel that no one wants to date a virgin…
my husband's sex drive is lower than mine!
Q: As a married woman, age almost 35, with an active sex drive and a husband of the same age with not as much drive...
searching for the sexual goddess within
Q: I’m having trouble with feeling sexy. I'm not gonna lie sex kind of both exhilarates me and scares me…
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