pillow talk
Pillow Talk is our blog where we provide answers to your most erotic, intimate, vulnerable, and sexy questions. We respond with sex-positive, pleasure-centered, medically accurate sex education to help you navigate some of your most pressing concerns. Join us in the conversation by submitting your questions here.
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reclaiming what it means to be a sexual Black woman.
Q: Personally I find it hard to think about me being sexual and a black woman because there are sooo many bad stereotypes that I don’t know how to get past, like in porn it’s much easier for me to watch porn with white people than black people because I think of what the world thinks of us. It’s hard because we are all seen as ghetto as black people so when I hear other black people talk like that I get turned off sometimes. I just don’t want it to be a black thing if that makes sense at all.
what you should know about fingering
Q: It seems like I often experience vaginal irritation and sometimes bacterial vaginosis when fingering occurs during sex. Can fingering cause BV and what is the likelihood of STD transmission?
4 practices for building a culture of consent
Q: Since #MeToo, my friends and I have been talking more about rape culture and the many ways our culture normalizes assault, like romanticizing Steve Urkel's decade-long harassment of Laura Winslow.
what you need to know about lube
Q: So often I feel like I need to use lube but I feel embarrassed. I feel like I’m too young to have to use lube but I’m also working on challenging that because I’ve seen a lot of posts mention how beneficial it is…
sexual pleasure anatomy 101
Q: I’m embarrassed to admit this but I’m in my mid-30s and I just learned about the clitoris…
sex gets better with age
Q: I’ve been single for three years since my marriage of 17 years ended in divorce. I have been hesitant to date and having sex brings up a lot of emotions, mostly anxious…
can exes be friends?
Q: Sometimes it genuinely feels like we’re just really good friends. Other times it feels really messy like we’re falling into old habits and a relationship again…
how do I become a sex educator?
Q: I believe that one day I would like to be a sexologist or sex educator. I just can’t find the steps to take to become one. How do I get into this kind of career?
10 questions with our co-creator, Rafaella
So much of my focus is on our community, learning about your needs, and how to best provide offerings to meet them that I forget that folx want to know more about who is behind the work.
10 questions with our co-creator, Dalychia
In growing our Afrosexology community I’ve been honored that so many people have trusted us enough to share some of their most intimate, vulnerable, and erotic experiences. It’s encouraged me to trust you all with more parts of myself…
love notes FROM our community
"The workshop was PHENOMENAL and an absolute pleasure and joy to share safe space with other Black women. I felt comfortable enough to be vulnerable and share my truths; I left the workshop feeling replenished and grateful.”
Danielle Gilmore, Black 32, queer, exploring polyam
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