the most important sexual relationship you will ever have is with yourself.
This 100+ page workbook is filled with solo sex information, worksheets, and practices that will transform and deepen your connection to your erotic power.
solo sex: a workbook for becoming your best lover
“For some of us focusing on our sexual self may bring up an array of feelings. We may battle with feelings of selfishness and worthiness as we recognize our desire to prioritize our pleasure. We may be confronted with feelings of shame and guilt as we unpack and unlearn negative messages we’ve internalized about sexuality. We may feel judgmental, fearful, and critical of the sexually empowered version of ourselves that appears throughout these pages. All of this is ok and natural! We are breaking through generations of interpersonal and institutional sexual shame, that has been used to separate us from our erotic self & erotic power. Whenever any of these unwanted thoughts and feelings come up, we can take deep breaths, acknowledge them, and decide if we want to affirm or release them. Sexual liberation is a lifelong journey that is not easy or linear. Know that we have the power to release any feelings, thoughts, and actions that are counter to our sexual journey.” -excerpt from Solo Sex Workbook
here’s a sneak peek of what’s inside . . .
Education
Scientifically accurate, sex-positive, and gender-inclusive content that was made to be accessible to those ready to transform their solo sex relationship through pleasure-based sexual education.
worksheets
Well-crafted, sex-positive, and pleasure-centered worksheets created to help you further engage and process the content within each chapter.
practices
Each chapter offers a mixture of our own personal practices and well-researched strategies to elevate your masturbation technique and routine into a solo sex ritual!
are you ready to release judgment, shame, and fear that has disconnected you from your erotic power?
affirmations about our workbook . . .
"It's very rare to engage with sexual discourse that doesn't center the male/other gaze. I love that this workbook through and through keeps you at the center of your sexual experience. I've struggled with feeling like my body is mine and I have a hard time staying in my body; so if someone is looking for a way to explore how to be in their body, I highly recommend this book."
— L. Roy, pronouns: they/she, age: 28, queer
“What can I say about the Solo Sex Workbook other than its the truth and the sh!t! I have recommended it to more than a few clients and I speak about it often enough that I have considered asking for an affiliate agreement! LOL
Seriously, this workbook will help you to reconceptualize your ideas of pleasure and get back in touch with you and your own needs. Take it seriously and you will notice change!”
— Dr. Donna Oriowo, LICSW, M.ED
“The Solo Sex Workbook is a beautiful resource to enhance & explore one’s relationship with self-pleasure. Afrosexology does a wonderful job of guiding folx down the path of curiosity, self-love, and, most importantly, FUN. As a sex therapist, this is a tool I recommend to anyone who wants to overcome self-pleasure shame or simply take their Solo Sex game to the next level.”
— Eliza Boquin, MA, LMFT
from the authors
Since 2015, we’ve held workshops centering masturbation education. We have traveled nationwide and internationally, successfully engaging with over 65,000 people in conversations about sex, sexuality, liberation, and of course, solo sex. We’ve heard many stories centering masturbation shame and embarrassment. We’ve had people share that they avoid commenting on posts or showing interest in events due to what others may think or say about them. And, we have received follow-up emails saying how healing our posts and events are — shifting people from a mindset of embarrassment to one of erotic desire and pride! We realized we needed another resource that was not limited by how far we could travel. So, we created the Solo Sex Workbook in 2018 out of the desire to address masturbation myths and miseducation, provide thoughtful and body-centered exercises for self-exploration, and guide people towards feeling sexually empowered to live their most pleasurable lives. Now, after three years, it’s time for an update! With our combined knowledge of over 20 years as sex educators in addition to our own growth, we have more to say about masturbation, solo sex, and sexual liberation and are thrilled to add it to our Solo Sex Workbook. Whether you are a novice or expert when it comes to solo sex or you invested in the first workbook, there’s no doubt that there is something for you in this new edition!
So, please enjoy this offering that was curated with the pure intention of deepening your sensual and sexual relationship to yourself.
with peace, power, and pleasure,
Dalychia and Rafaella (she/hers), Creators of Afrosexology, LLC
the truth is . . . you deserve pleasure.
You don’t have to do anything special to earn it. You deserve pleasure simply because you exist. And we have just the tool to help you dive deeper into that truth, your truth. The Solo Sex Workbook will get you started.